Relationship Advice for Creating "Non-Negotiables" in Your Relationships

When there is something that is "non-negotiable" in our relationships and lives, there's often a negative, uncomfortable, closed feeling that goes along with that thought or idea.

We've discovered that "non-negotiables" in our relationships can actually make them dramatically better and filled with much more love, passion and connection.

Curious? Here's how...

Recently, we picked up Jack Canfield's book "The Success Principles" and were fascinated by what he said about commitment and how that relates to creating great relationships.

In his book, he talked about making a "100% commitment to the outcome" and that successful people "adhere to the 'no exceptions rule' when it comes to their daily disciplines."

He goes on to say that once you decide something is non-negotiable, you don't have to think about it anymore and life is easier.

Okay, so let's translate that idea to relationships...

For us, our commitment to each other is that we connect on a deep level every day. It's "non-negotiable" and we don't have to decide if we're doing it or not. We just do it!

Whether we connect in person during our hour of connection in the morning or by phone on the rare occasions that we are away from each other--we express our gratitude, appreciation, love, angst and anything else that's important to us in that moment in all sorts of different ways with each other.

We've discovered ways to make keeping our commitment fun, exciting and enjoyable--instead of something we "have" to do. That time is certainly a high point in our day.

Another commitment we've made with our extended family is to physically get together at least once a month. Whether it's a picnic at a park in a city that is central to all of us or it's an overnight at Susie's sister's house to celebrate a birthday, we are committed to connecting and having fun in some way or another--with each other. This commitment is "non-negotiable" for all of us.

So our questions to you are these...

What's non-negotiable, by choice, in your relationships?

What commitment are you willing to make to create your life and relationships the way you want them to be?

What are you willing to say that you'll make a 100% commitment to doing that will improve your life and your relationships?

In other words, what can you choose to commit to right now (or in the near future) that could change and improve your relationships for the better?

It might be something that you stop doing--like judging and criticizing your loved ones or a co-worker--or stopping what you are doing to actually look at them when they are talking to you.

It might be something new that you begin doing--whether the other person is in agreement or not.

It might be a commitment that you make with your partner--something that would revitalize and re-energize your relationship.

Whatever this idea may mean to you, we invite you to look at how you can open to experiencing more love and connection in your life.

Spend some time thinking about and creating some new positive and fun "non-negotiable" commitments and let us know what you come up with.

We know from personal experience that when you make new commitments that are "non-negotiable" that will help you create more love,passion and connection, the payoff can be amazing.

Relationship coaches Susie and Otto Collins, authors of "Should You Stay or Should You Go?" "No More Jealousy" and "Red Hot Love Rel3CCationships" are experts at helping people get more of the love and connection they really want. Learn the 5 keys to a closer, more loving relationship, plus many more relationship articles by visiting http://www.Relationshipgold.com

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