How To Build Your Self Esteem

Self Esteem is very important topic for everybody. Every body has their own self esteem. There is need to develop self esteem in today's age. There are some reasons because of which self esteem getting low, reason like social isolation, violence, bad marriages, lack of success, depression, conflict at the workplace.

It is necessary to find out solution by pointing out their good traits. Many Psychologists says that we could give our children very high self esteem by complimenting their good things and praising them for their activity. Psychologists use to tell that one can remember their good things done when they feel low self esteem that will definitely help in improving self esteem. There are good things like which you like to do yourself, repeat affirmation, acknowledge your good traits, etc.

Actually self esteem is all about, internally guiding our self regarding how well we are doing socially; it is somewhat similar to internal guide to the temperature. Here is an example which demonstrates lively, when sometimes you feel hot, at that time you used to take off cloths or open window. When you feel cold, you just bundle up. Sometimes you might went on repeating to yourself over and over again " I am feeling warm, I am feeling warm" there are better things to do with your time. You might just put on a sweater and get on with it. Its is very useful to have an internal guide a feeling which lets you know what is happening in the surrounding world and which gives you some motivation to do something about it.

It is very true, when you didn't get positive feedback from other people at that time you feel low self esteem. What self esteem actually need is acknowledgment, compliments, appreciations, we should be notice and like by people around us. Thee are some honest approach to crate self esteem high among people, giving honest and accurate feedback to children, spouses and employees is most important. Sometimes there are some things which you genuinely appreciate but it might do more good.

When it comes to build your own self esteem, it is necessary to change your behavior. First of all do your task well and treat other people well, you will definitely feel good about yourself. Increase your value in the view of other people and to work place where you are working. Please do not do anything which didn't give any response you want. Your self esteem definitely rise as an accurate reflection of your a3B8bilities and where you deserve it.

Sandra Reynolds is a beauty and massage therapist in Chicago. Check out these great Self Help articles and resources or more specific Self Esteem guides and resources.

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Tools To Help You Focus And Concentrate On Your Goals And Objectives In Business And Employment

For some people, meeting objectives and goals can be difficult. If you are one of the millions of people who have trouble with focus and concentration, don't give up; by following simple guidelines; there is hope for you to reach the goals that you have set for yourself.

The place in which you work has its own atmosphere. The office or cubicle in which you work should reflect your personality. It should be quiet, and you should have an adequate, clean workspace, however, if you are going to spend your time there, you should want to be there. When you have this type of environment, you are more likely to accomplish a lot more work.

It has been proven that music has ability to help you focus o5B4n the task at hand. The genre of the music is up to the person listening to it. Music can make the everyday distractions that cause you to loose focus, disappear. It is recommended however that you use earphones, as other people may not share the same taste in music.

There are a lot of ways to improve your focus and concentration. If you are unable to do it on your own, workshops and seminars are available in many cities and towns across the country. They are designed to assist you in developing your focus and concentration skills.

If at the end of a long day, you find that you do not have the time or energy to attend a workshop or seminar, you can visit your local bookstore to find thousands of books lining the shelves on the subject improving focus and concentration.

When you feel your focus is slipping, a good way to get it back is to take a bath instead of a shower before work. A shower is usually short, while you can lounge and soak in a bath. You will emerge feeling refreshed and you may find that the stress you had went down the drain with the bath water.

It is a proven fact that when you are hungry, you focus and concentration suffer. While dieting can help you loose weight, it can also decrease your concentration levels. It is important that you eat breakfast, healthy or not, it will assist you to focus better.

The power of positive thinking is very much underestimated in todays society. Self-affir5B4mation can stimulate your brain and give you the boost that you need to focus better. It has been proven to work.

Saying positive phrases to yourself over and over again will unconsciously help you to convince yourself that it is true. There is no greater power than believing in yourself.

Believe it or not, breathing can actually help reduce the stress that you feel. When you are less stressed you are able to focus better. There are certain breathing exercises that you can learn to assist you in developing better focus and concentration.

It is important to have the right tools to improve your concentration. It is more important that you use them. Having the right attitude will also assist you in making sure that your focus and concentration is on track. This in turn will have favorable results with your boss.

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Personal Core Values

Each of us has our own set of values. These are what determine which aspects of life we regard as important or beneficial. Our values help determine our tastes, our way of life, our entertainment, our social, political and religious interactions. Each of us holds many values and these values are liable to change as we grow, reach different stages of life or have different experiences or influences in life. Some of the values we hold may be superficial, transitory or fitting solely the moment in which we find ourselves. Other values are more fixed and may stay with us through our life; these are our core values.

Our values come from a range of sources. Our parents are a key influence upon our values as we grow as children. So, too, is any church or religious background we experience. Our society, our neighbours, friends and colleagues, too, can have an influence upon our values. So, too, can our teachers and our schooling.

Often, school can be a place of conflict for it is there that we experience other values perhaps for the first time. Some of the values we experience in school can be in conflict with or contradict the values of our parents. As we go through high school, we start to experience values in ourselves and our peers that conflict both with school and our parents. Conflicting and unfixed values can be a major problem for adolescent and teenage years.

As we grow in years and experience, our values become more fixed, especially a set of 6 to 10 core values. It is these core values that determine what is really important to us as an individual. The surprising thing is that if you ask most people what their values are, many would not be able to give you an answer.

A good many people are leading lives unconnected with their core values. This can lead to a life of unhappiness, discontent and lack of fulfilment. Sometimes it can lead to conflict. Often the person does not know why their life seems unhappy, unfulfilled and sometimes full of conflict. Often, the cause is that the life they are living is not in accordance with their personal values.

For some people a conflict can arise within them because they are trying to live a life according to the values of a company, an organisation, a religious or political organisation, the values of their friends or colleagues or partner, rather than living a life according to their own core values. In doing this, the values of the other people or organisations are being met but the persons own values are being left unfulfilled.

This is not to say that a person is always wrong to seek to suppo5B4rt and fulfil the values of other people or organisations. However, leaving your own values unfulfilled can lead to frustration and unhappiness. A key issue in this, though, is that the person may believe they are doing the right thing by working to the values of others and yet still feel a sense of frustration and unfulfilment; -the reason being that they may be unaware of their own values or, maybe, feel guilty of their own values where they conflict with the values of others. So, if you feel your life is unfulfilled, unhappy, or maybe has too much conflict, then it could be that you are leading a life that does not accord with your core values. The question is; do you know your own personal core values?

Hiring a personal life coach can certainly help you to discover your personal values but for those who want to start the discovery for themselves, try answering the following question;

What, in life, is important to you?

Dont think about your answers (yes, theres likely to be more than one thing thats important to you), at least dont think about them at first. Just write down whatever comes into your head, no matter how strange, amusing or worrying they may seem. These first answers are probably your gut or intuitive answers; sometimes these are closer to the truth than answers that you think about. Next, think about what is important in life for you. Take some time to consider your ans5B4wers before writing them down in a word or short phrase. Dont worry if the some of the same answers appear in your first list; - just write them down again.

Now you have two lists. Take a look at them; is there anything there that surprises you or anything that worries you? Sometimes people can be quite surprised by what they write down and occasionally they may write down something that shocks them or they feel guilty about.

Quite common words that people put on their list of values include ; money, success, family, wife/husband/partner, growth, power. If you find one, or more, of these words on your list, ask yourself another question;

What does (the word) mean for me?

So you may ask, what does money mean for me. To which the answer could be; money means security, or money means success, or money means freedom, or money means being able to provide for my family.

By answering the second question you can help uncover the real or underlying value for you. So for you, money is not the real value, it is security or being successful or being independent or being able to provide for my family that is the real value.

So, by doing these simple exercises, you are beginning to discover your personal core values. The next exercise is to ask your self how do my life, my work and my relationships help fulfil my personal values? If you fin495d that they do not help you fulfil your personal values then perhaps you should consider changing your life. To do that; get a life coach.

Douglas Woods is a qualified life coach who works with individuals and couples seeking to improve their life or relationships. You can read more about his work at http://www.dougwoods.com.

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Love, Anger and Forgiveness - How To Let Go And Be Emotionally Free Once And For All

Anger and forgiveness seem to be opposites, and in many ways they are. You may be surprised to learn, however, that they have a lot in common. If you make anger the "bad guy," you just won't get to the forgiving part. Anger has to be fully understood and released before you get to move on to the freedom of forgiveness. Forgiveness has to be 16D0fully understood before you can let go of resentments and be emotionally whole and free.

It all starts with love. We are born with the need to love and be loved, and no one, even the best parents, can meet that need perfectly. Therefore we all feel hurt as a natural part of life. And of course, there are those hurts that are inflicted by abuse, abandonment and neglect, in some cases extreme.

From this pain, fear and anger naturally emerge. It makes perfect sense to be angry when you're hurt. Anger is an important place to visit, you just don't want to live there. Here is where forgiveness comes in. Forgiveness is the process of letting go of anger and resentment so that you can go on with your life. Forgiveness is for you, not for the forgiven. That is essential to understand.

Anger and forgiveness seem opposite, in the sense that anger involves an intense focus on the "wrongdoer," and forgiveness involves shifting focus off of that person and moving on with your life. Yet there are some ways that anger and forgiveness are the same.

How Anger and Forgiveness Are The Same

Unhealthy anger and premature forgiveness both include:

-Judgment

-The "one-up" position

-Dishonoring to yourself

When you are angry at someone and blaming them, you are definitely judging them and putting yourself in a "one-up" position. The way you are dishonoring yourself here is that you are failing to look at your own creative responsibility in the situation. This is the hazard of the "blame game." When you are into blaming others for your feelings, situation or plight, you are making yourself a victim and denying your own power and responsibility.

Premature forgiveness is forgiving someone when you're not through being angry. You are still judging them, and therefore you're seeing yourself as "one-up." You are dishonoring yourself by pretending to forgive in your mind, when your heart and gut are still carrying anger and resentment.

Here are some important truths to remember when you're angry:

-The other person is responsible for his/her actions that triggered your anger. You are not responsible for their behavior.

-You are responsible for your emotional reaction and for your actions that result from your emotional reaction. They are not responsible for your emotional reactions or your behavior that results.

Here are some other ways that anger and forgiveness are the same. When anger is healthy, and forgiveness is authentic, both involve:

-Power

-Release

-Letting go

-No more victim position

-Operating in a container of love

Both healthy anger and true forgiveness involve the power of healthy release and letting go, which takes you out of the victim position. This can only occur in a container of love. Anger can only be healthy when accompanied by some degree of love and wisdom, and forgiveness can only be true when it is based on love for yourself and/or another person.

Understanding Anger

Anger is the most misunderstood emotion. Most people just think it is bad. Here are some common misconceptions:

-Anger is a bad emotion and should always be controlled

-It is possible to be without anger completely

-It is wrong to be angry

-To be angry means to be out of control

-Anger is the same thing as aggression

-When a person is angry that means they are not safe to be around

These misconceptions result from the lack of understanding of healthy anger. Healthy anger is:

-A feeling you have when you're threatened or opposed

-A protective emotion

-Powerful energy that can be used for positive outcomes

-Fuel for effective action

Have you ever taken action about something that made you angry? Think about MADD, Mothers Against Drunk Drivers. They got mad, and took action in healthy, appropriate ways to resolve the problem leading to their pain and anger. Here's the bottom line on healthy anger:

Healthy anger fuels effective action!

Understanding True Forgiveness

True forgiveness is something that only your body can do. Surprised by that? Here's the deal. Anger and resentments are held in the body as well as the mind, and your mind can decide to forgive long before your body is ready. Literally, your body has a mind of its own. Here are some things to understand about forgiveness:

-Forgiveness is not just a decision that you can make in your mind

-Forgiveness requires an emotional and physical release to be complete

-Your body is capable of holding onto anger long after your mind thinks it has forgiven

-Forgiveness does not absolve the wrongdoeryou dont have that kind of power

-Withholding forgiveness does not hold the wrongdoer accountableeveryone is accountable whether you forgive or not

-Forgiving doesn't mean you have decided that what the wrongdoer did is okay

-You don't have to wait for the wrongdoer to change for you to forgive

-You won't be able to forgive until you have fully examined the depth and extent of your wounds

-You won't be able to forgive until you have acknowledged the full depths of your anger

-Forgiveness is for you

-Forgiveness is good for your health

-Forgiveness allows you to be more loving and joyful

You will know that you have forgiven when your body is relaxed and your breathing is deep and easywhile you visualize the wrongdoer and say, "I accept you for who you are, with all of your best and worst. I no longer need you to change. I forgive you for myself, so that I can be free. I forgive you so that I can let go of resentments and feel love and joy in my heart, mind and body."

Your body will tell you if the forg584iveness is complete.

Keys to Emotional Health and Freedom

-Take responsibility for your actions and emotions

-Do not accept blame for anything

-Place responsibility for others' actions and emotions on them

-Do not blame anybody for anything

Here are some thoughts to consider about love:

-Love can be intoxicating, and therefore can lead to unhealthy decisions

-The need to love and be loved is the most powerful force in human nature

-Love is who you are in your spiritual essence

-Conditional love is not really loveit is more about control

-The only real love is unconditional love

-You will always remember those people in your life who have loved you unconditionally

-You are at your very best when you are experiencing unconditional love

Life starts with love. Anger is an inevitable emotion, which can temporarily or permanently take us away from love. When we work through our anger, we can forgive. Forgiveness is a return to love.

The greatest of these is love.

William G. DeFoore is a counselor, executive coach, speaker and president of the Institute for Personal and Professional Development. As the originator of the47EGoodfinding audio program, newsletter and website, he has also been on the faculty of the Wellness Program at Cooper Aerobics Center for fifteen years. He has 34 years of experience in helping people achieve healthy, happy relationships.

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How Well Do You Know Your SELF? - An Exploration of What's Inside

Many categories of self have common characteristics, and there is value in exploring them. By understanding their distinctiveness, we may gain a clearer picture of how each of us fits into the world.

Self-Esteem Also known as self-worth, a person's self-esteem is forged during the first seven or eight years of life. By then the mind has created the critical faculty (also known as the critical factor) to filter incoming messages, thus protecting the impressionable and immature subconscious. Until that is in place, absolutely everything a child hears, sees, and experiences will fashion a core belief that could be a lifetime guide.

If, during this critical period, a child consistently hears, "You are so disorganized, you'll never amount to anything," or similar judgmental put-downs, there is a strong possibility that the person will experience self-sabotage in later life. In transactional analysis, the core belief is known as the parent and it relentlessly directs behavior. Low self-esteem is created in an atmosphere of conditional love, and subsequently reinforced through negative self-talk. Unfortunately, contrary evidence is usually disregarded.

Some people endeavor to bolster their self-esteem through external elements, like marriage, alliance with others, and even the accumulation of money, titles, and degrees. While surrounding oneself with positive people has its benefits, it is problematic to define the self through external trappings.

Although it is a good thing to be proud of accomplishments, it is essential for people to make a clear distinction between their identities and their accomplishments.

All other "selves" emanate from self-esteem, that is, they take cues from the quality of the self-esteem. A fragile self-esteem will spawn weakness. A sound self-esteem, built in an environment of unconditional love, will sponsor resilient self-identities.

Self-awareness is the ability to reflect on our thought processes. We can become aware of many signals received from our bodies. We are not our feelings, thoughts, behaviors, and moods. These are simply processes that we experience and are not a "part" of our essence. We are able to objectively scrutinize the way we see ourselves. This social mirror of our place within humankind allows us to evaluate the roles of nature and nurture in our own attitudes and behaviors.

Self-acceptance is the coming to terms with who we are right now, just as we are with all our faults, weaknesses, and errors, as well as our assets and strengths. It is important to appreciate that the negatives belong to us they are not us. Recognition of shortcomings is a healthy first step in personal growth. The actual self is necessarily imperfect and dynamically striving for improvement. It is always a work-in-progress. Blatantly professing to be perfect produces great mental strain.

Self-honesty is being in touch with ones own basic human instincts for justice and fairness for self and others. It means being aware of rationalizations used to counter our conscience and other internal signals. It means ridding oneself of the need to appraise self-worth in external terms. It also means assessing ones strengths and weaknesses realistically.

Self-image is a custom-built collage fabricated from how we think others see us. We tend to draw conclusions about ourselves based on how we are treated. Psychologists generally agree that people underrate themselves. An inner sense of mastery and competence is developed only when we focus on our inner core of personal vitality and creativity rather than on seemingly negative evidence.

Negative feedback can be constructive in helping us get back on course; however, when we obsess about what others think, we relentlessly and consciously monitor every act, word, and manner. This creates inhibited, self-conscious perfectionists.

Traditionally, when employees demonstrated loyalty and hard work, they had an expectation of job security, regular pay increases, and promotions. Now, in many work locations, uncertainty and stress prevail. Habitual feelings of injustice lead to the victim mode of resentment and self-pity, thus lowering self-image and self-esteem.

Self-mastery is the knowledge about how to manage oneself on a daily basis so as to maximize accomplishment. Remember the old saying, By failing to plan, people plan to fail. Setting goals that are specific, timely, achievable, measurable, accountable, and realistic, and which demand just a slight stretch, have the likelihood of being reached, if combined with passion and action.

One constant in life is change. How we manage change depends on our experience and mind-set. An unpleasant encounter may subconsciously program us to either shy away from, or preferably, relish a new challenge. It all depends on how we perceive the original event. Some of my clients are stuck in their jobs, their relationships, or their lives in general. By remaining in their comfort zone, they are denyi5B4ng themselves opportunities to live at their full capacity. Self-mastery is knowing when to learn new skills or take on new responsibilities, when to hold on to beliefs that serve you, and when to let go of beliefs that do not serve you.

Self-efficacy is the context-specific assessment of belief in our personal capabilities to organize and execute what is required so as to achieve the intended goal. It is concerned not with the skills we have, but rather with our control over our own level of functioning. People with high self-efficacy choose more demanding tasks. They set higher goals, put in more effort, and persist longer than those who are low in self-efficacy.

Self-efficacy grows through personal and vicarious experience, discipline, and valid feedback. Although usually considered in a single context, there may also be a generalized effect reflecting a persons abilities across a broad array of difficult or novel situations. For instance, if someone is loved by a supportive family on the home front, then that person will display a greater confidence on the job. This will be reflected by peer and management feedback, which will, in turn, show up on the home front, perpetuating the cycle.

Self-confidence is an external manifestation of the health of self-esteem, self-efficacy, and self-mastery. Although it reflects the strength of these selves, it can be purposefully overridden to become a faad5A7e that we deliberately create for external scrutiny. I had a client who was a television actor. He once told me that actors often dont know where their next job is coming from. They may seem to possess a great deal of self-confidence, but often it hides a shaky self-esteem.

If it is merely bravado, it is shallow. On the other hand, the technique of "act-as-if" can have a positive effect on the subconscious, since it cannot differentiate between something real and something vividly imagined.

Self-love is the regard you have for your own happiness. It parallels unconditional love inasmuch as, no matter what you do, you nurture yourself by giving yourself permission to take pleasure in whatever life has to offer. In the therapy of Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), we use the phrase, "I deeply and completely love and accept myself."

Self-actualization is the realization of one's full potential through creativity, independence, spontaneity, and a grasp and appreciation of this world.

There were three brick-layers at work.
Each of them was asked in turn "What are you doing?"
The first brick-layer answered, "I'm laying bricks."
The second answered, "My job... to support my family."
And the third bricklayer smiled and said, "Me? Why, I'm building the world's most magnificent cathedral."

International speaker, Dr. Brian E. Walsh, is the bestselling author of Unleashing Your Brilliance. For much of his 30-year corporate career he was involved in human resources, specifically training.

While living in the arctic, Brian studied anthropology and Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP), which prepared him for working with other cultures. He was then transferred to China where he served as his companys GM.

After his return to Canada, he elected early retirement to further his earlier interest in NLP and hypnotherapy. He returned to formal study, and within four years had achieved his Ph.D. His dissertation, which focused on accelerated learning techniques, inspired his passion and his book, Unleashing Your Brilliance. Information is available at http://www.UnleashingBook.com

Dr. Walsh regularly conducts workshops on accelerated learning. He is a master practitioner of NLP, an acupuncture detoxification specialist, an EFT practitioner, and a clinical hypnotherapist.

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The Inspiration to Change the World Can Get in the Way of the Inspiration to Love It

You might say I hate this and I love that but this is impossible. Love and hate are not opposites. A loving person cannot love one thing and hate another. This is the mark of a righteous person or an emotional person. It is the mark of the ego.

Lovers become jealous when their partner loves other people and they complain. But they are barking up the wrong tree. A lover, who loves, loves many, many people. How can they switch this on, and switch this off. A loving person loves both sexes. There is no limitation to sexual preferences, and certainly no religious organization has the right to speak love on one hand and limit it to relationships and sexual preference on the other.

I you are a loving person then you love people. Then you know, if you feel hate or resentment or distaste, it is your incapacity to love that is tested, not some self manufactured, protective judgment you have made on people who are worthy of love.

When we say we want to change someone, we have sto5B4pped loving them. If we cannot see the beauty then we cannot see the love. It is the same with the world. The ancient mysteries are mirrored in the laws of nature and these are what I teach. Nature is not prejudice or righteous, it loves, and the mysteries say the same.

If there is a limit to what you love on earth, then there is a limit in you, not the earth. The earth does not need your judgment, neither do your children, partner or friends. The earth needs your love.

Nature takes care of this argument. She is more smart than David Suzuki and other activists think. She places one half of the human race on the consumption path, and the other half of the human race on the conservation path. Then Yin and Yang are balanced. Both groups think they are right. And they are. But the wise person, who is committed to love and not righteousness, sees that they are both right, and therefore does not get caught in hate and emotion. The wise person sees that between two opposing forces, nature is evolving at the right pace.

In our own life, shit happens. The spiritual types and the highly religious types spend their whole lives trying to fight that truth. They think there is a psychotic God somewhere who is casting judgment on the good guys and bad guys. But this is absurd. How can you have a loving heart if you are always casting judgment of hate this and want to change that? That is a paranoid life.

The laws of nature, rea5B4lly the ancient mysteries translated, are not given to you so you can change the world, they are given so you can se the beauty of it. That means rising above the muck. You want a life in the muck, then join the anti this, or the pro that. This is what is called the mass consciousness. You cant have a loving heart in the mass consciousness. That mass consciousness is religious consciousness, made of worthy and unworthy of love. This is not what I share with the world, lets make no mistake and confuse the two.

In my new book on Sacred Love, I talk about a loving lifestyle. How can you have a loving lifestyle if you always want to change things? Then, if you want to change things, (and therefore people) you are always separate from people. This is not love. This is mind. Mind cannot love, it can only imitate love by creating emotions, desires, expectations.

Love comes when the mind is confused. Yes, if you give the mind one piece of information it is happy. Then it can place it in the brain and cause a response. This is hot, this is cold. This is right this is wrong. That is why people who have control issues are also religious people. They are always looking for more right, or more better or more spiritual so that they can have just one thought. This person cannot love, they can only think love, or imitate love.

If you feed the mind two pieces of conflicting information, then we say, Oh, I am confused but if we5B4 can relax, and not struggle with confusion we have intuition. When the mind gets two pieces of conflicting information it (this is the ego) gets panic attacks. Go left, go right? It cant decide. Actually, this is the obsession with people who only learn half of spirituality; the new age seeker, the meditator, the yogi, the Buddhist, a born again Christian who learned from a book about life.

The books cant sell if they dont speak left or right answers. So the books say this is better than that so, the reader reads, the mind is fed with rubbish and that person thinks they are better off. But they lost love. You will see it. So many people who do yoga and meditation, and born again and Buddhist new learners, they have bad relationships, emotional relationships, bad health, bad problems. This is because they already had the idea that there was something wrong, and now they got a new way to judge it. They stayed in their mind, nothing changed except the justification.

I am trying to teach you something else. Something different from the Guru or the yoga book or the Buddhist lecturer about peace. I am trying to give you peace. Yes, peace comes only when the mind is confused. Can you understand that a mind with a single thought feels comfortable because it knows but this mind is not capable of love. So once you know something, youre buggered.

If you want love, you have to seek out just the first 5B4law of nature. Not the other four. Just one simple law. That law is that there are two sides to everything. So in fact the mind is comfortable only when it defies the first law of nature. If you feed the truth to the mind, it goes into violent reaction and rejects the news. The mind is afraid (thats why the ego exists) of loosing itself. So it panics when there is balanced information, it runs away from relationships when there is truth. The mind is a God, and it seeks half truth. Just like a religious God, that feeds the ego.

The law of balance tells you that there are two sides to everything. This is the knowledge of the great mysteries. They destroyed that library in Alexandria, Egypt in order to create religion, but the secrets are still in the world. You have to become a warrior in order to rise above religious dogma of one sided information in order to live a loving lifestyle. Then, you must also be prepared to understand that 6 billion people dont get it. And about 100,000 do.

If your mind gets balanced information like: The forest in the Amazon needs protecting, and the forest in the Amazon needs chopping, then it is really cheesed off. What the hell? What are you saying? Two opposite truths? Cant be. But this is love. Love means your boyfriend, or girlfriend is good news and bad. But your mind hates some things and wants to change them, and so, you say I love you --- as long as ---- or I love you 5B4 if

Now there is conditional love. Mind love. This is not real love, not sacred love, no, this is expectations love, this is mind love, imitation. Most people imitate love. They say I want a relationship that is like the one on Gone with the Wind so now, the mind has an idea, and then the mind examines that relationship, compares that relationship, judges their partner, expects things. So the mind is really happy because it knows what it wants. But love cannot exist at the same time in a body with a mind that knows what it wants. Either the ego is in control or love is, both cant share at the same time.

So, people do courses, they do yoga they read new age books and they go to lectures to improve. But there is a problem. All those teachings are lies. Even the teachers are lairs. They cant live what they teach. They pretend like an actor, and they sell ideas, and people think those ideas are legit. But they are lies.

The happy person has two sides. Nature guarantees that. No person ever lived the 10 commandments, the Buddhist dharma, the Yama and Niyama of Yoga. No one ever did what they preached. Never. Those teachings are religious and they are designed to give us an aspiration, but we will always fail. Those teachings are designed to feed the ego, give the mind happiness, satisfy our lust to become immortal. This is a lie.

The truth is behind those teachings. Those teachings are designed to5B4 keep you in control and because of that alone they are precious. But those teachings cannot give you any love, none, not one penny of love. They can only show you how it aspire to it, imitate it and hope for it.

So, I am not arguing against religious teachings. I am talking about a totally different topic. I am talking about being in love now, living in love today, being real, not imitating, trusting that, if your mind goes for a break, youll be fine.

I can teach this sitting in an office or doing collapse process in a fancy hotel. I can teach this love and mystery in nature, because here, the ego is disarmed, your clothes arent made by Gucci, your underpants will be sweaty, your ego shoes will be covered in cow dung, the ego cant hold on, and there, underneath all that is a beautiful, precious, magnificent smile. And there you have it, love.

I hope you see the difference. Love is not an aspiration. Love is what exists before you want it. For the most part, to becoming a loving person youll need to unlearn so much of what you learned because all that was to protect yourself. But when you have love, really, you find out how unimportant you are, and how beautiful this whole, magnificent, stunningly delicious universe is, right there in front of you, mirrored in a leaf from a tree, or the fingernails of a baby. So easy, yet, such a journey.

I want to share my global vision as part of this article5B4, I hope you find it GOOD AND BAD and by doing so, feel the love behind it. Remember, it is impossible to stop judging, that is a psychotic and dangerous state, it is only possible to judge more, and in doing so, judge everything extremely good, and extremely bad, and if you can see that in the same moment, youll burst open, like a beautiful rose, youll burst open with love.

When you hear someone say dont judge you can laugh and remember the years you spent trying, as they will, to do the impossible.

Chris Walkers global Vision.

To communicate the message and essence of modern well-being (consciousness and spirituality) at all levels of society (personal, community, corporate & global). To help people become healthier, more inspired by life, more in love with their lover and better able to live their expanded potential. To bring more heart, happiness and love to everyday life. To foster a new generation of leaders. To share wisdom of natures law with all generations. To transform educational systems, practices and culture for less competition and more inspiration. To awaken the power and beauty of the human heart and stop persecution and injustice. To help children throughout the world get a fair go in both wealthy and poor environments. To use natures law to guide a new global vision. To bridge the social, human, economic, and humanitarian gaps caused by religion. To share - tools and kno5B4wledge for living an inspired guided life. To educate - a transformative approach to the development of learning that prevents illness. To heal community, corporate and global environments. To fight against self absorption of self help, drugs and un ethical guidance. To inspire a new global perspective in healing, management and global reconciliation. To create global change in the way people relate. To translate the laws of nature to the world. To help move the world through its next evolutionary phases.. To initiate a new global paradigm shift in business. To celebrate the beauty of creation in everyday reality.

Through the laws of nature, to impart the knowledge, mysteries and wisdom of the ages, to those that are ready.

With Spirit

Chris Walker is a world leading change agent, an environmentalist and author of more than 20 books. Born and bred in Australia, he consults to people and organisations throughout the world on improved relationships, health and lifestyle through the application of the Universal laws of Nature. The result he offers is that we stay balanced, share loving relationships, work with passion, enjoy success, and live our personal truth. To learn more about Chriss w32Dork and journeys to Nepal, visit http://www.innerwealth.com

Brian Tracy

Love, Anger and Forgiveness - How To Let Go And Be Emotionally Free Once And For All

Anger and forgiveness seem to be opposites, and in many ways they are. You may be surprised to learn, however, that they have a lot in common. If you make anger the "bad guy," you just won't get to the forgiving part. Anger has to be fully understood and released before you get to move on to the freedom of forgiveness. Forgiveness has to be 16D0fully understood before you can let go of resentments and be emotionally whole and free.

It all starts with love. We are born with the need to love and be loved, and no one, even the best parents, can meet that need perfectly. Therefore we all feel hurt as a natural part of life. And of course, there are those hurts that are inflicted by abuse, abandonment and neglect, in some cases extreme.

From this pain, fear and anger naturally emerge. It makes perfect sense to be angry when you're hurt. Anger is an important place to visit, you just don't want to live there. Here is where forgiveness comes in. Forgiveness is the process of letting go of anger and resentment so that you can go on with your life. Forgiveness is for you, not for the forgiven. That is essential to understand.

Anger and forgiveness seem opposite, in the sense that anger involves an intense focus on the "wrongdoer," and forgiveness involves shifting focus off of that person and moving on with your life. Yet there are some ways that anger and forgiveness are the same.

How Anger and Forgiveness Are The Same

Unhealthy anger and premature forgiveness both include:

-Judgment

-The "one-up" position

-Dishonoring to yourself

When you are angry at someone and blaming them, you are definitely judging them and putting yourself in a "one-up" position. The way you are dishonoring yourself here is that you are failing to look at your own creative responsibility in the situation. This is the hazard of the "blame game." When you are into blaming others for your feelings, situation or plight, you are making yourself a victim and denying your own power and responsibility.

Premature forgiveness is forgiving someone when you're not through being angry. You are still judging them, and therefore you're seeing yourself as "one-up." You are dishonoring yourself by pretending to forgive in your mind, when your heart and gut are still carrying anger and resentment.

Here are some important truths to remember when you're angry:

-The other person is responsible for his/her actions that triggered your anger. You are not responsible for their behavior.

-You are responsible for your emotional reaction and for your actions that result from your emotional reaction. They are not responsible for your emotional reactions or your behavior that results.

Here are some other ways that anger and forgiveness are the same. When anger is healthy, and forgiveness is authentic, both involve:

-Power

-Release

-Letting go

-No more victim position

-Operating in a container of love

Both healthy anger and true forgiveness involve the power of healthy release and letting go, which takes you out of the victim position. This can only occur in a container of love. Anger can only be healthy when accompanied by some degree of love and wisdom, and forgiveness can only be true when it is based on love for yourself and/or another person.

Understanding Anger

Anger is the most misunderstood emotion. Most people just think it is bad. Here are some common misconceptions:

-Anger is a bad emotion and should always be controlled

-It is possible to be without anger completely

-It is wrong to be angry

-To be angry means to be out of control

-Anger is the same thing as aggression

-When a person is angry that means they are not safe to be around

These misconceptions result from the lack of understanding of healthy anger. Healthy anger is:

-A feeling you have when you're threatened or opposed

-A protective emotion

-Powerful energy that can be used for positive outcomes

-Fuel for effective action

Have you ever taken action about something that made you angry? Think about MADD, Mothers Against Drunk Drivers. They got mad, and took action in healthy, appropriate ways to resolve the problem leading to their pain and anger. Here's the bottom line on healthy anger:

Healthy anger fuels effective action!

Understanding True Forgiveness

True forgiveness is something that only your body can do. Surprised by that? Here's the deal. Anger and resentments are held in the body as well as the mind, and your mind can decide to forgive long before your body is ready. Literally, your body has a mind of its own. Here are some things to understand about forgiveness:

-Forgiveness is not just a decision that you can make in your mind

-Forgiveness requires an emotional and physical release to be complete

-Your body is capable of holding onto anger long after your mind thinks it has forgiven

-Forgiveness does not absolve the wrongdoeryou dont have that kind of power

-Withholding forgiveness does not hold the wrongdoer accountableeveryone is accountable whether you forgive or not

-Forgiving doesn't mean you have decided that what the wrongdoer did is okay

-You don't have to wait for the wrongdoer to change for you to forgive

-You won't be able to forgive until you have fully examined the depth and extent of your wounds

-You won't be able to forgive until you have acknowledged the full depths of your anger

-Forgiveness is for you

-Forgiveness is good for your health

-Forgiveness allows you to be more loving and joyful

You will know that you have forgiven when your body is relaxed and your breathing is deep and easywhile you visualize the wrongdoer and say, "I accept you for who you are, with all of your best and worst. I no longer need you to change. I forgive you for myself, so that I can be free. I forgive you so that I can let go of resentments and feel love and joy in my heart, mind and body."

Your body will tell you if the forg584iveness is complete.

Keys to Emotional Health and Freedom

-Take responsibility for your actions and emotions

-Do not accept blame for anything

-Place responsibility for others' actions and emotions on them

-Do not blame anybody for anything

Here are some thoughts to consider about love:

-Love can be intoxicating, and therefore can lead to unhealthy decisions

-The need to love and be loved is the most powerful force in human nature

-Love is who you are in your spiritual essence

-Conditional love is not really loveit is more about control

-The only real love is unconditional love

-You will always remember those people in your life who have loved you unconditionally

-You are at your very best when you are experiencing unconditional love

Life starts with love. Anger is an inevitable emotion, which can temporarily or permanently take us away from love. When we work through our anger, we can forgive. Forgiveness is a return to love.

The greatest of these is love.

William G. DeFoore is a counselor, executive coach, speaker and president of the Institute for Personal and Professional Development. As the originator of the47EGoodfinding audio program, newsletter and website, he has also been on the faculty of the Wellness Program at Cooper Aerobics Center for fifteen years. He has 34 years of experience in helping people achieve healthy, happy relationships.

Get free information, watch videos and purchase books, CDs and downloads at http://www.Goodfinding.com.

Ulysses S

The Inspiration to Change the World Can Get in the Way of the Inspiration to Love It

You might say I hate this and I love that but this is impossible. Love and hate are not opposites. A loving person cannot love one thing and hate another. This is the mark of a righteous person or an emotional person. It is the mark of the ego.

Lovers become jealous when their partner loves other people and they complain. But they are barking up the wrong tree. A lover, who loves, loves many, many people. How can they switch this on, and switch this off. A loving person loves both sexes. There is no limitation to sexual preferences, and certainly no religious organization has the right to speak love on one hand and limit it to relationships and sexual preference on the other.

I you are a loving person then you love people. Then you know, if you feel hate or resentment or distaste, it is your incapacity to love that is tested, not some self manufactured, protective judgment you have made on people who are worthy of love.

When we say we want to change someone, we have sto5B4pped loving them. If we cannot see the beauty then we cannot see the love. It is the same with the world. The ancient mysteries are mirrored in the laws of nature and these are what I teach. Nature is not prejudice or righteous, it loves, and the mysteries say the same.

If there is a limit to what you love on earth, then there is a limit in you, not the earth. The earth does not need your judgment, neither do your children, partner or friends. The earth needs your love.

Nature takes care of this argument. She is more smart than David Suzuki and other activists think. She places one half of the human race on the consumption path, and the other half of the human race on the conservation path. Then Yin and Yang are balanced. Both groups think they are right. And they are. But the wise person, who is committed to love and not righteousness, sees that they are both right, and therefore does not get caught in hate and emotion. The wise person sees that between two opposing forces, nature is evolving at the right pace.

In our own life, shit happens. The spiritual types and the highly religious types spend their whole lives trying to fight that truth. They think there is a psychotic God somewhere who is casting judgment on the good guys and bad guys. But this is absurd. How can you have a loving heart if you are always casting judgment of hate this and want to change that? That is a paranoid life.

The laws of nature, rea5B4lly the ancient mysteries translated, are not given to you so you can change the world, they are given so you can se the beauty of it. That means rising above the muck. You want a life in the muck, then join the anti this, or the pro that. This is what is called the mass consciousness. You cant have a loving heart in the mass consciousness. That mass consciousness is religious consciousness, made of worthy and unworthy of love. This is not what I share with the world, lets make no mistake and confuse the two.

In my new book on Sacred Love, I talk about a loving lifestyle. How can you have a loving lifestyle if you always want to change things? Then, if you want to change things, (and therefore people) you are always separate from people. This is not love. This is mind. Mind cannot love, it can only imitate love by creating emotions, desires, expectations.

Love comes when the mind is confused. Yes, if you give the mind one piece of information it is happy. Then it can place it in the brain and cause a response. This is hot, this is cold. This is right this is wrong. That is why people who have control issues are also religious people. They are always looking for more right, or more better or more spiritual so that they can have just one thought. This person cannot love, they can only think love, or imitate love.

If you feed the mind two pieces of conflicting information, then we say, Oh, I am confused but if we5B4 can relax, and not struggle with confusion we have intuition. When the mind gets two pieces of conflicting information it (this is the ego) gets panic attacks. Go left, go right? It cant decide. Actually, this is the obsession with people who only learn half of spirituality; the new age seeker, the meditator, the yogi, the Buddhist, a born again Christian who learned from a book about life.

The books cant sell if they dont speak left or right answers. So the books say this is better than that so, the reader reads, the mind is fed with rubbish and that person thinks they are better off. But they lost love. You will see it. So many people who do yoga and meditation, and born again and Buddhist new learners, they have bad relationships, emotional relationships, bad health, bad problems. This is because they already had the idea that there was something wrong, and now they got a new way to judge it. They stayed in their mind, nothing changed except the justification.

I am trying to teach you something else. Something different from the Guru or the yoga book or the Buddhist lecturer about peace. I am trying to give you peace. Yes, peace comes only when the mind is confused. Can you understand that a mind with a single thought feels comfortable because it knows but this mind is not capable of love. So once you know something, youre buggered.

If you want love, you have to seek out just the first 5B4law of nature. Not the other four. Just one simple law. That law is that there are two sides to everything. So in fact the mind is comfortable only when it defies the first law of nature. If you feed the truth to the mind, it goes into violent reaction and rejects the news. The mind is afraid (thats why the ego exists) of loosing itself. So it panics when there is balanced information, it runs away from relationships when there is truth. The mind is a God, and it seeks half truth. Just like a religious God, that feeds the ego.

The law of balance tells you that there are two sides to everything. This is the knowledge of the great mysteries. They destroyed that library in Alexandria, Egypt in order to create religion, but the secrets are still in the world. You have to become a warrior in order to rise above religious dogma of one sided information in order to live a loving lifestyle. Then, you must also be prepared to understand that 6 billion people dont get it. And about 100,000 do.

If your mind gets balanced information like: The forest in the Amazon needs protecting, and the forest in the Amazon needs chopping, then it is really cheesed off. What the hell? What are you saying? Two opposite truths? Cant be. But this is love. Love means your boyfriend, or girlfriend is good news and bad. But your mind hates some things and wants to change them, and so, you say I love you --- as long as ---- or I love you 5B4 if

Now there is conditional love. Mind love. This is not real love, not sacred love, no, this is expectations love, this is mind love, imitation. Most people imitate love. They say I want a relationship that is like the one on Gone with the Wind so now, the mind has an idea, and then the mind examines that relationship, compares that relationship, judges their partner, expects things. So the mind is really happy because it knows what it wants. But love cannot exist at the same time in a body with a mind that knows what it wants. Either the ego is in control or love is, both cant share at the same time.

So, people do courses, they do yoga they read new age books and they go to lectures to improve. But there is a problem. All those teachings are lies. Even the teachers are lairs. They cant live what they teach. They pretend like an actor, and they sell ideas, and people think those ideas are legit. But they are lies.

The happy person has two sides. Nature guarantees that. No person ever lived the 10 commandments, the Buddhist dharma, the Yama and Niyama of Yoga. No one ever did what they preached. Never. Those teachings are religious and they are designed to give us an aspiration, but we will always fail. Those teachings are designed to feed the ego, give the mind happiness, satisfy our lust to become immortal. This is a lie.

The truth is behind those teachings. Those teachings are designed to5B4 keep you in control and because of that alone they are precious. But those teachings cannot give you any love, none, not one penny of love. They can only show you how it aspire to it, imitate it and hope for it.

So, I am not arguing against religious teachings. I am talking about a totally different topic. I am talking about being in love now, living in love today, being real, not imitating, trusting that, if your mind goes for a break, youll be fine.

I can teach this sitting in an office or doing collapse process in a fancy hotel. I can teach this love and mystery in nature, because here, the ego is disarmed, your clothes arent made by Gucci, your underpants will be sweaty, your ego shoes will be covered in cow dung, the ego cant hold on, and there, underneath all that is a beautiful, precious, magnificent smile. And there you have it, love.

I hope you see the difference. Love is not an aspiration. Love is what exists before you want it. For the most part, to becoming a loving person youll need to unlearn so much of what you learned because all that was to protect yourself. But when you have love, really, you find out how unimportant you are, and how beautiful this whole, magnificent, stunningly delicious universe is, right there in front of you, mirrored in a leaf from a tree, or the fingernails of a baby. So easy, yet, such a journey.

I want to share my global vision as part of this article5B4, I hope you find it GOOD AND BAD and by doing so, feel the love behind it. Remember, it is impossible to stop judging, that is a psychotic and dangerous state, it is only possible to judge more, and in doing so, judge everything extremely good, and extremely bad, and if you can see that in the same moment, youll burst open, like a beautiful rose, youll burst open with love.

When you hear someone say dont judge you can laugh and remember the years you spent trying, as they will, to do the impossible.

Chris Walkers global Vision.

To communicate the message and essence of modern well-being (consciousness and spirituality) at all levels of society (personal, community, corporate & global). To help people become healthier, more inspired by life, more in love with their lover and better able to live their expanded potential. To bring more heart, happiness and love to everyday life. To foster a new generation of leaders. To share wisdom of natures law with all generations. To transform educational systems, practices and culture for less competition and more inspiration. To awaken the power and beauty of the human heart and stop persecution and injustice. To help children throughout the world get a fair go in both wealthy and poor environments. To use natures law to guide a new global vision. To bridge the social, human, economic, and humanitarian gaps caused by religion. To share - tools and kno5B4wledge for living an inspired guided life. To educate - a transformative approach to the development of learning that prevents illness. To heal community, corporate and global environments. To fight against self absorption of self help, drugs and un ethical guidance. To inspire a new global perspective in healing, management and global reconciliation. To create global change in the way people relate. To translate the laws of nature to the world. To help move the world through its next evolutionary phases.. To initiate a new global paradigm shift in business. To celebrate the beauty of creation in everyday reality.

Through the laws of nature, to impart the knowledge, mysteries and wisdom of the ages, to those that are ready.

With Spirit

Chris Walker is a world leading change agent, an environmentalist and author of more than 20 books. Born and bred in Australia, he consults to people and organisations throughout the world on improved relationships, health and lifestyle through the application of the Universal laws of Nature. The result he offers is that we stay balanced, share loving relationships, work with passion, enjoy success, and live our personal truth. To learn more about Chriss w32Dork and journeys to Nepal, visit http://www.innerwealth.com

Louise Hay

How Well Do You Know Your SELF? - An Exploration of What's Inside

Many categories of self have common characteristics, and there is value in exploring them. By understanding their distinctiveness, we may gain a clearer picture of how each of us fits into the world.

Self-Esteem Also known as self-worth, a person's self-esteem is forged during the first seven or eight years of life. By then the mind has created the critical faculty (also known as the critical factor) to filter incoming messages, thus protecting the impressionable and immature subconscious. Until that is in place, absolutely everything a child hears, sees, and experiences will fashion a core belief that could be a lifetime guide.

If, during this critical period, a child consistently hears, "You are so disorganized, you'll never amount to anything," or similar judgmental put-downs, there is a strong possibility that the person will experience self-sabotage in later life. In transactional analysis, the core belief is known as the parent and it relentlessly directs behavior. Low self-esteem is created in an atmosphere of conditional love, and subsequently reinforced through negative self-talk. Unfortunately, contrary evidence is usually disregarded.

Some people endeavor to bolster their self-esteem through external elements, like marriage, alliance with others, and even the accumulation of money, titles, and degrees. While surrounding oneself with positive people has its benefits, it is problematic to define the self through external trappings.

Although it is a good thing to be proud of accomplishments, it is essential for people to make a clear distinction between their identities and their accomplishments.

All other "selves" emanate from self-esteem, that is, they take cues from the quality of the self-esteem. A fragile self-esteem will spawn weakness. A sound self-esteem, built in an environment of unconditional love, will sponsor resilient self-identities.

Self-awareness is the ability to reflect on our thought processes. We can become aware of many signals received from our bodies. We are not our feelings, thoughts, behaviors, and moods. These are simply processes that we experience and are not a "part" of our essence. We are able to objectively scrutinize the way we see ourselves. This social mirror of our place within humankind allows us to evaluate the roles of nature and nurture in our own attitudes and behaviors.

Self-acceptance is the coming to terms with who we are right now, just as we are with all our faults, weaknesses, and errors, as well as our assets and strengths. It is important to appreciate that the negatives belong to us they are not us. Recognition of shortcomings is a healthy first step in personal growth. The actual self is necessarily imperfect and dynamically striving for improvement. It is always a work-in-progress. Blatantly professing to be perfect produces great mental strain.

Self-honesty is being in touch with ones own basic human instincts for justice and fairness for self and others. It means being aware of rationalizations used to counter our conscience and other internal signals. It means ridding oneself of the need to appraise self-worth in external terms. It also means assessing ones strengths and weaknesses realistically.

Self-image is a custom-built collage fabricated from how we think others see us. We tend to draw conclusions about ourselves based on how we are treated. Psychologists generally agree that people underrate themselves. An inner sense of mastery and competence is developed only when we focus on our inner core of personal vitality and creativity rather than on seemingly negative evidence.

Negative feedback can be constructive in helping us get back on course; however, when we obsess about what others think, we relentlessly and consciously monitor every act, word, and manner. This creates inhibited, self-conscious perfectionists.

Traditionally, when employees demonstrated loyalty and hard work, they had an expectation of job security, regular pay increases, and promotions. Now, in many work locations, uncertainty and stress prevail. Habitual feelings of injustice lead to the victim mode of resentment and self-pity, thus lowering self-image and self-esteem.

Self-mastery is the knowledge about how to manage oneself on a daily basis so as to maximize accomplishment. Remember the old saying, By failing to plan, people plan to fail. Setting goals that are specific, timely, achievable, measurable, accountable, and realistic, and which demand just a slight stretch, have the likelihood of being reached, if combined with passion and action.

One constant in life is change. How we manage change depends on our experience and mind-set. An unpleasant encounter may subconsciously program us to either shy away from, or preferably, relish a new challenge. It all depends on how we perceive the original event. Some of my clients are stuck in their jobs, their relationships, or their lives in general. By remaining in their comfort zone, they are denyi5B4ng themselves opportunities to live at their full capacity. Self-mastery is knowing when to learn new skills or take on new responsibilities, when to hold on to beliefs that serve you, and when to let go of beliefs that do not serve you.

Self-efficacy is the context-specific assessment of belief in our personal capabilities to organize and execute what is required so as to achieve the intended goal. It is concerned not with the skills we have, but rather with our control over our own level of functioning. People with high self-efficacy choose more demanding tasks. They set higher goals, put in more effort, and persist longer than those who are low in self-efficacy.

Self-efficacy grows through personal and vicarious experience, discipline, and valid feedback. Although usually considered in a single context, there may also be a generalized effect reflecting a persons abilities across a broad array of difficult or novel situations. For instance, if someone is loved by a supportive family on the home front, then that person will display a greater confidence on the job. This will be reflected by peer and management feedback, which will, in turn, show up on the home front, perpetuating the cycle.

Self-confidence is an external manifestation of the health of self-esteem, self-efficacy, and self-mastery. Although it reflects the strength of these selves, it can be purposefully overridden to become a faad5A7e that we deliberately create for external scrutiny. I had a client who was a television actor. He once told me that actors often dont know where their next job is coming from. They may seem to possess a great deal of self-confidence, but often it hides a shaky self-esteem.

If it is merely bravado, it is shallow. On the other hand, the technique of "act-as-if" can have a positive effect on the subconscious, since it cannot differentiate between something real and something vividly imagined.

Self-love is the regard you have for your own happiness. It parallels unconditional love inasmuch as, no matter what you do, you nurture yourself by giving yourself permission to take pleasure in whatever life has to offer. In the therapy of Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), we use the phrase, "I deeply and completely love and accept myself."

Self-actualization is the realization of one's full potential through creativity, independence, spontaneity, and a grasp and appreciation of this world.

There were three brick-layers at work.
Each of them was asked in turn "What are you doing?"
The first brick-layer answered, "I'm laying bricks."
The second answered, "My job... to support my family."
And the third bricklayer smiled and said, "Me? Why, I'm building the world's most magnificent cathedral."

International speaker, Dr. Brian E. Walsh, is the bestselling author of Unleashing Your Brilliance. For much of his 30-year corporate career he was involved in human resources, specifically training.

While living in the arctic, Brian studied anthropology and Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP), which prepared him for working with other cultures. He was then transferred to China where he served as his companys GM.

After his return to Canada, he elected early retirement to further his earlier interest in NLP and hypnotherapy. He returned to formal study, and within four years had achieved his Ph.D. His dissertation, which focused on accelerated learning techniques, inspired his passion and his book, Unleashing Your Brilliance. Information is available at http://www.UnleashingBook.com

Dr. Walsh regularly conducts workshops on accelerated learning. He is a master practitioner of NLP, an acupuncture detoxification specialist, an EFT practitioner, and a clinical hypnotherapist.

Subscribe to his monthly eZine, "Enriched Learning" at http://www.UnleashingBook.com

Dalai Lama

Fear of Commitment - The Most Natural Thing in the World

If you've ever dated you've dealt with commitment issues. More often than not, it's the man that doesn't want to commit and the woman that wants to know to ‘get' her partner to commit. The following letter is a perfect example of the fear experienced by men when faced with commitment:

"Over the years, I've had many relationships with women, and I have a pretty good time with each one until she wants to get serious. Especially if she says, I love you, I'm out of there. I've been told I have a fear of commitment, but that doesn't make sense to me. I'm really committed to my job, and I've made long-term commitments to many things, so how could I be afraid of commitment when it comes to a relationship? That old "fear of commitment" label just doesn't help me see what's happening here."

The single thing we all need most in order to be happy is Real Love, but the vast majority of us-including you, I suspect-have seen very little of that kind of love. Instead, we've seen that people "love" us when we do what they want-when we're good-but when we're inconvenient and uncooperative, we get quite a different reaction. That conditional love creates an enormous and painful emptiness within us, which we then try to fill with Imitation Love.

Real Love is, "I care about your happiness." Imitation Love is, "I like how you make ME feel." Imitation Love includes conditional approval, praise, sex, money, power. Imitation Love is traded, bought, and sold, and although it can seem pretty exciting in the moment, it never lasts and never makes us genuinely happy.

Eventually, we come to resent and fear our experiences with Imitation Love, because we don't like the constant feelings of obligation and disappointment and irritation that result from having to BUY the affection of others with our behavior. It's exhausting and unfulfilling. Trading in Imitat5B4ion Love gets to be a real drag.

That's why you tend to avoid getting close to women. Without Real Love, all you've ever known to do with women is trade Imitation Love, and although that was sometimes pretty exciting in the beginning, you've noticed that eventually the exchange of praise, sex, approval, flattery, and so on becomes less and less rewarding.

It turns to garbage. Somehow you just know-deep inside-that these women care about you only conditionally-the same way you're caring for them-and why would you want to make a commitment to anybody to experience that kind of emptiness for a lifetime?

So avoiding commitment on your part is actually brilliant. Your intuition-yes, men have intuition too-is telling you that commitment to a life of Imitation Love would be a lousy deal. Good thinking. Does that mean you'll never have a great lifelong relationship? Not at all. We'll get to that shortly.

You mentioned that you really get nervous when she says, "I love you." Of course you do. All our lives people have told us they love us, but then we find out that they like us only when we're doing things for them and when we don't inconvenience or hurt them. They often get tired of us and leave. Or they stay in our lives, but they're demanding and they criticize us.

So it's understandable that you'd have some negative feelings when you hear, "I love you." When you hear those words, it's likely 5B4that some of the following thoughts go through your mind-mostly unconsciously:

1. What do you want from me?

2. What do I have to do so you'll keep loving me?

3. Do I really want to take on the burden of doing everything it'll take so you'll keep loving me?

4. I wonder how long this will last?

5. So what? Lots of people have told me that, and I didn't end up happy because of it.

6. When are you going to hurt me like everyone else who's "loved" me?

7. I suppose now I'll have to tell you that I love you, or you'll be hurt and angry.

8. I don't know if I'm capable of loving you like you want in return.

These are all serious concerns, and they explain why many of us have difficulty making a commitment to relationships, especially marriage. We feel obligated to anybody who expresses affection for us, or we're certain that things will fall apart as they always have in the past, and then we'll feel even more hurt and alone. We want to avoid all that, so we stay away from commitment.

It's important that you see that you're afraid to commit only to a relationship based on imitation Love, because that includes trading, demands, expectations, obligation, and inevitable disappointment and pain. If you knew what a relationship based on real Love could be like, you wouldn't be afraid of that. Real Love is unconditional and could never hurt you.

When people have felt enough Rea5B4l Love in their lives and begin to share it with others, they can't imagine how they ever lived another way. By comparison, Imitation Love is utterly empty, even harmful.

The good news is this: You can learn to find Real Love. Visit the information section of RealLove.com to learn more about Real Love and take the simple but powerfully effective steps that will give you the happiness and rewarding relationships you've always wanted. When you find a partner with whom you can share that kind of joy, making a commitment to him or her is a delight, not a burden.

The world is literally dying from a lack of the one thing essential for our happinessReal Love. We spend our entire lives trying to replace that unconditional love with praise, power, sex, money, entertainment, safety, and so on. But it never works, and the resulting emptiness and fear are almost too much to bear.

We dont have to live like this anymore. Greg Baer and RealLove.com are teaching (1) the real cause of fear and anger and (2) how to find this Real Love that replaces the fear, anger, and conflict in our lives with peace, confidence, and genuine happiness.

Dr. Greg Baer is the author of 16 books, DVDs, and CDstwo of which are internationally published by Penguin Putnam Groupand has presented the life-changing message of Real Love to32A hundreds of thousands of people all over the world.

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Moon Magic

How to Not Change Your Spouse

Loving our spouse is giving them the freedom to be who it is they are. When we love without WANTING anything in return, that is when we have accepted our spouse for being who they are, faults and all.

This of course, doesnt include iniquitous behavior because if anyone is carrying on and regularly doing things in err against spouse or God, they certainly are not being the person they were meant to be. Therefore, this article does not apply to them.

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change!

Love is an option; we select the degree of love and what kind of love we will give to our spouse through our actions. Love can sometimes be confusing and misleading, especially if couples are going through trials and tribulations in their marriage and are demanding of one another.

We think that if we could change our spouse, well suddenly be happy and contented with our self. We try and change our spouse because we have stopped accepting them for who they are. Therefore, we cannot seem to love them either.

Pretty soon, we begin to place nasty conditions on the love we give to our spouse. If their faults irritate us bad enough we might not give ANY love at all. Sound familiar?

With no love left to give to our spouse, we might think we have nothing in common anymore? Who knows, maybe we begin to think we married the wrong person? Suppose the person we met last week at work is better than our spouse? Pretty soon we have brainwashed our self into believing our feelings.

No wonder more than half of all marriages end in divorce!

How about, God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change!

Couples waste so much of their time and energy trying to change each other. But is that really what needs to be done?

Marriage gurus think they have all the ans11DCwers, and self help books goat and challenge couples to try and change for each other. But most of these people are divorced too! So what gives?

How a bout a little bit of acceptance! It works wonders.

Really, we just need to try and not let those little things bother us. Even some of the bigger things we can detach from. Forgive. Turn the other cheek. Do these things even when you dont want to! Communicate the issue. Let your spouse know what bothers you, but dont make it into a tirade.

Dont scream and yell at them about how bad they are, instead find something positive to say about them. Make them feel good about them self. Thats what works!!

What about, Ill scratch your back, if you scratch mine. This is good in marriage. There is nothing wrong with the give and take type rapport with each other. In fact, this is essentially how couples love each other.

No one can ever love unconditionally, without demands, bargains or expectations, never. You know why? Because were just human, we err, and we have faults.

We need to accept that and move on with our life; hopefully that moving on includes our spouse.

The "give and take" process is a natural occurrence; it is instinctive to do something nice for our spouse because they have done something nice for us. We give and take all day long with most of our interaction in our daily lives; its part of life.

Most marriages work in this fashion; it is a good way for marriage to flourish and grow. It keeps couples on their toes as far as remembering to give of themselves periodically to their spouse EVEN when they dont want to. That is love.

Now, there is a big difference when we put ultimatums on the table. Dishing out ultimatums is more of a nasty conditional love and is based on selfish thinking and usually stems from one or both spouses harboring resentment. "I'll love you, only if you will stop going out with your friends", etc.

This is not love, but a selfish person trying to get their way through manipulation and ultimatums!

Most marriages can be salvaged. We have to stop THINKING we can change our spouse. We really just need to try a little bit harder. Let those things go that we cant do anything about, and stop feeling resentful can make a big impact on the marriage.

Allow your spouse the freedom to just BE. Accept your spouse! Love!

Love is created by a person and not just is. Love takes action to accomplish. The value of the love we give to our spouse is based on how we are feeling at any given moment and time.

If we feel resentment or bitterness towards those we love, we'll inevitably love with resentment and bitterness, which is one way we place nasty conditions on our love.

We don't have to listen to those feelings of bitterness.

"What is generated into our heart comes out in our actions".

Loving someone in the real sense of the word is allowing him or her to be who it is they are. When we learn to play the give and take game fairly is when can accept the person we are married to.

Bottom line, accept your spouse for who they are, give to your spouse without wanting anything in return, and it will eventually be given back to you.

This is how to not change your spouse. Acceptance Is LOVE.

Angie Lewis, author of new release, Journey on the Roads Less Traveled

http://www.spiritual.journeybooks.4t.com/

ISBN 1413788904

Available Amazon and any online bookstore.

Angie Lewis is writer for online marriage ministry.

http://www.heavenministries.com/

Neale Donald Walsch

Reincarnation is a Promise of Unconditional Love

Reincarnation is the grandest aspect of unconditional love, and the least understood as part of our natural life cycle.

Because many people do not understand what unconditional love really is, it is no wonder that they do not understand or recognize the value of reincarnation. Conditional love would say that you have one turn on the holodeck. Unconditional love would say that you have as many turns as your feel necessary to experience all that you desire.

When we love our children unconditionally, we do not try to change them, but to guide them. We give them as many turns as necessary unconditionally to make it on their own. A good parent recognizes the strengths of their children, and allows freedom for them to explore there own potential, while still maintaining their love for them. Mistakes, errors, screw-ups are all part of the learning process and a parent doesn't withdraw their love or threaten because the child wonders off the path or makes a mistake.

Unconditional love is unconditional freedom-freedom to make as many mistakes as is necessary to accomplish a desired goal. Reincarnation is the ultimate freedom that our creator has given us-to come back as many times as is necessary to accomplish a desired experience. No love could be greater than that. It is a birthright that is known by the soul before it incarnates into the physical world.

In the awareness of the possibility of reincarnation, one is given unlimited freedom and limitless opportunity to fully explore the physical world, and what it has to offer. In the awareness of this freedom, comes confidence that one will achieve his desires on a grander scale.

In the awareness of my own physical experience, I know that I will probably wake up tomorrow and carry on with my life and what I had planned for today, next week, and next year. There is continuity in what I desire from one day to another because my focus is on a limited physical life that may last up to 100 years or longer. However we are often taught or believe that we must focus on the first 65 years. Often little thought is given to the next 35 or so years, because we don't consider the5B4m productive, or at the very least we believe them to be our declining years, and a prelude to death or non-life.

We often miss the importance of these years as a prelude to another life-a preparation for a transformation to a higher level of existence in a more evolved world-the one we already live in. What we are doing here is experiencing physical life and all that it has to offer, but we are also preparing the world and our children to create the next world that we will experience upon our return.

Recently I finished reading the book "The Indigo Children." I was first alarmed by the realization of their existence and what they were bringing into this world now. Their characteristics are rebellious to current conditions and a world that is about to transform. Old ideas die hard, and transformation brings chaos and death to ideologies that have brought us this far.

For a brief moment I was feeling uncomfortable about these children-the worlds new stewards. Then I realized that they would not be stewards of my old world, but of a new world I have helped create, and that I will be returning to later. I will become one of these children upon my return. I will be one of their indigo children in one or more generations of physical life. I must trust them to take care of this world in my absence.

In awareness and focus of a physical existence that spans more than one lifetime, I can see the significance of reincarnat5B4ion. I can also see how important it is not to give up on what I am creating or experiencing now. I can see how vital it is to have long term goals, aspirations, and concerns for the world and its future circumstances.

Many of us do not consider these important aspects of physical life and their significance to our own future.

I have said myself in short sightedness-that I am glad I am leaving this world behind-that I will not have to deal with a future I do not understand. I have also felt like many that I do not understand the new generation and their indifference to what I know of this world, and have experienced.

For many, there is some comfort in a belief that they will die and go somewhere else-that they will not return, and they will not have to deal with what they have left behind. However this would be like starting a new book and finishing it after the first chapter. It is very short sighted and an unenlightened philosophy.

Reincarnation is a very real option for most of us-it is also a choice, a choice of freedom that comes from unconditional love. Most of us will return, and carry-on with our lives in a new body, that is equipped for the new world we have been building generation after generation. This is long term thinking that is consistent with the natural tendency for life to always move towards a higher level of experience.

I welcome these new children (our future leaders). I look forward t5B4o understanding them and to giving them guidance and opportunity. I am excited at the prospect of being one of their children, and being guided by them into a future world that will be different than the one I have known and left behind.

I believe one of the greatest hindrances to our own evolution has been this misconception-that we will not have to deal with the circumstances of the present world, after we have passed on-that it is all over. This short-term thinking has left our children a world that they must abandon or clean up. Many of us have disowned this world, thinking that we have not been part of its evolution-nothing could be farther from the truth. Everyone that has been born into this world, has contributed to its circumstances and evolution. You are responsible whether you accept it or not. You have participated in its technology, its pollution, and its degradation. You have contributed to the necessity for a new human to evolve to take over for you. You have created your new parents and a new world. You have left your example, your history and your insight for others-and a promise of a reincarnated you, to follow. Death is not an escape-it is another opportunity to repeat your mistakes or move away from them.

When seen from this perspective, life brings on a whole new expanded meaning. It brings greater opportunities for more abundance, happiness, and a brighter future. It leaves behind fear as we begin to ma5B4ke friends with it-in the realization that it is within our own personal power to create the world of our dreams. We will not be punished for our mistakes; we will experience the results of them, and will have the freedom to move away from them-at will.

This life is not final, and you will have as many turns as you wish. Your present incarnation is not the first stage, nor is it the last and there will be as many as you desire. You are not doomed, nor are you a victim-you are a creator. It is within your own personal power to create the world which suites you. It is within your own thoughts to experience the present world as Heaven, Hell, Nirvana, Stovokor (if you're Klingon) or anything else that your imagination is capable of.

You will return to this world and experience it as anything that you can imagine. Where-ever you think you are going, that is what you will experience. But, it will not be another place-it will be the place that you have created-here! It is the experience of the physical world that changes, not the physical world itself. Matter is formed and reformed in a manner that reflects your thoughts, your imagination.

Reincarnation comes from the greatest love of all-unconditional love. Unconditional love is unconditional freedom to experience all that you desire-unconditionally!

Just as I have created these pages, I know I will have a chance to change them-make any corrections that I feel necessar591y. I will do this in a near future (over breakfast), that I will create. Because I know that I will have this opportunity-I will not panic, I will not be desperate, and I will not react from fear.

It doesn't matter whether you believe in reincarnation or not. What you believe now, is what you will experience when you die. However, because you have freedom to choose, why would you not choose to experience something that works within your own best light? Why would you choose something that does not raise you to the next level of awareness-something that is better than what you are experiencing now?

Reincarnation is just such a choice. It is our birthright, our inheritance, our guarantee of continuance. Life cannot be created nor destroyed. Life is all there is, and it continuous.

Roy E. Klienwachter is a resident of British Columbia, Canada. A published author, a student of NLP, ordained minister, New Age Light Worker, Teacher and Phenomenologist. Roy's books and articles are thought provoking, and designed to empower your imagination, and take you to places you would never have thought about.

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Legendary Magic Carpet

The Core of the Soul - The Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Soulful Love Part Two

Gifting & Receiving Absoulute Love

For some of the souls here on this earth dimension, we are able to gift Absoulute Love what we perceive as easily to other souls. Spirit says that there are moments in which we perceive we are gifting Absoulute Love but it is in the form of the disguise of conditions, or expectations of how we think other souls should be. This form of gifting is that of conditional love, whereby if the soul acts or is being within how we think they should be within our perception, then we gift that soul love. If they are being something other than what we deem in our perception that they are "supposed to" be, then we attempt to provide the illusion of "withholding" our love.

For the souls whom have remembered, embraced, and treasured this Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Absoulute Love, then this Absoulute Love is an constant flowing 5B4resonance that they choose to BE in, a way of BEing, a way of LIFE. Receiving and giving are One in the co~creative forces of the Universe and of LIFE. It is from this sense of 6ratitude that we are in Ah! Or Awe! with, for, and of LIFE when we are resonating in a resonance of Absoulute Love. When we are within this ambiance of Absoulute Love that it is seamlessly, effortlessly flowing from within our soul to other souls to the Universe and then comes again to us in a continuous circle or cycle of Absoulute Love.

For the souls whom live in the perception of an axiom that Absoulute Love was free from ever being shown to them in their lives here on this earth dimension, these souls choose The Ego Self of the Soul "Rabbit Hole" of choosing the illusion of "withholding" their Absoulute Love. I should know this phenomenon quite well, as I once chose to BE this soul. The illusionary reason that I chose to reside within the illusion of "withholding" gifting Absoulute Love was because I felt that I was unworthy of receiving it, and if I was unworthy of receiving it, then why should anyone else receive it, especially from me. This was what I believed within The Ego Self of the Soul "Rabbit Hole" when I chose to live in the illusion that I was separate, disconnected from every soul, from everything.

As Spirit writes of within the Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Choice, there was a moment in my Life Experience here where I 5B4'decided' or cut off all possibility of Absoulute Love in my LIFE. As a part of the game of LIFE, I 'decided' while resonating within The Ego Self of the Soul "Rabbit Hole", that I was 'not good enough or worthy enough' to receive Absoulute Love. For me, this occurred when I was six earth dimensional years old. When I was six earth dimensional years old, I was a great speller of the earth dimension's English language and had won the spelling bee at school. I came home with a certificate saying I won and my mother was very proud of me and happy and she said "You should show this to your father when he gets home".

Now as an adult, spiritually speaking, I recognize in this moment that my father is the type of person that when he comes home, his form of meditation to wind down from what he considers to be a 'long day at work' is to sit down in front of the T.V. in his favorite chair, read the mail, and just veg out, as his form of meditation. But as a six year old, whom had been on this earth dimension for such as short amount of what we call as earth dimension time, I was free from knowing and understanding this wisdom, as coming from The Pure Consciousness of the Cosmic Infinite Circle of the Universal Source of All That Is that we are and emanate from, we are free from this concept as all is inclusively One sense of inner wisdom and this is who I was choosing to BE as a six year old having been free from discovering and embracing 5B4completely the earth dimensional duality Ego Self of the Soul. So when I came running into the room just after dad had come home that earth dimensional night and was in his chair looking at the mail with his meditative focus on that, and me waving my certificate around, he was free from even ever acknowledging me. It was then and there in that moment that I realized the earth dimensional duality Ego Self of the Soul perceiving itself as separate, that said I was 'not good enough' ~ not good enough to receive his Absoulute Love, and therefore, I must not be worthy of receiving any Absoulute Love. From that moment on I set out in my life to "prove" that I was 'not good enough'.

Therefore, when events would occur to bring forth a Soul Remembering, such as the Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Absoulute Love through events such as kids picking on me at school or this soul would not play with me or be my friend, rather than choose to remember, embrace, and treasure the Soul Rememberings Through Life Experience, I would experience the thoughtenergy to myself of (and some moments in an Ego Fit Rabbit Hole tantrum out loud) "SEE! Look at what THEY did, SEE I am not good enough, see they will not be my friend or they pick on me etc..." Later in life it was with Aaron who was then my boyfriend, when we were physically separated when I became pregnant with our son Chris and he was in the illusion of believing that he was free from5B4 being ready to be a father, again rather than remember, embrace, and treasure, this Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Absoulute Love, it was "See I am not good enough, he left me".

Thus, from the moment of being that six year old, I began to prove over and over again within The Ego Self of The Soul perceiving myself as separate from in Absoulute Love and from All That Is, that I was 'not good enough'. For many earth dimensional years I became quite skilled at playing the role of the illusionary victim and seeking out other souls to bring with me into The Ego Self of the Soul Rabbit Hole that I was choosing to create. In fact, I became so good at it that I had a friendship with a soul at one moment in my LIFE in which, our sole or Soul Purpose for being friends, our Soul Purpose for being brought together was for us to spend money and to sit while our children played together and have Ego Self of the Soul Rabbit Hole fits about our perception of how horrible our husbands were and how horrible life is and so on! In essence, for many earth dimension years I was living my life as a six year old!

It was when I went through a weekend spiritual seminar that began the five year earth dimension period of what we call here as the initiation of Ascended Mastery or Spiritual Oneness, in which I would choose to remember continuously many Soul Rememberings Through Life Experience that would gift to me the rememberings of the so5B4ul for who I am BEing in this moment.

The Illusion That We Are Separate From Absoulute Love

Spirit shares with us that we somehow fear and believe that we are "unworthy enough" to receive Absoulute Love and it is this axiom within the soul that we seem to choose to call our own, as we hold onto this axiom as if it is ours that we are unconscious to that keeps us from knowing, experiencing, gifting, and receiving Absoulute Love which is why events occur in our LIFE, to awaken and re~awaken us to remember the Soul Rememberings that we have chosen to forget as a part of playing this game of LIFE (Living Infinitely From Experience).

It is within the believing in this axiom of "I am unworthy of Absoulute Love" Spirit imparts, that has us create a perceptional illusion of proving over and over again that we are unworthy. So just as who I once was choosing unconsciously to BE, we seek out relationships and events to prove that illusion of The Ego Self of the Soul that says that we are indeed separate from every soul, separate from All That Is, and unworthy of Absoulute Love. It is that we somehow believe that we are something other than always, in All Ways connected that causes us to experience the illusionary perceived e~motional disconnection, which is what then causes the illusional e~motional discontent or dis~ease, a being free from BEing at ease within, to occur.

The Infinitely Spiritual Light BEing shares with usB68 that the reason that we experience the e~motion at moments like we are encased in a shell in our LIFE is because we feel that somehow we are disconnected from other souls and disconnected from All That Is, from the Universal Source that we came from and emanate from, which creates an illusion that we have a disconnection within us, with our soul. It is just that mere illusion that we are somehow other than The Pure Consciousness of the Cosmic Infinite Circle of the Universal Source of All That Is that we are and emanate from and that we are disconnected and unloved, that keeps us experiencing the e~motion that we are something other than connected. And it is our choice to stay in the illusion of disconnection that keeps us from being connected, from being All That Is or to step into and BE what we already and always, In All Ways, are ~ Spiritual Oneness and Absoulute Love.

BEing Absoulute Love

How do we shift this? How do we come to a resonance of Absoulute Love? As Spirit invited us earlier, they share that it is through 6ratitude that we are Absoulute Love. However, in being in 6ratitude within an illusionary 'seeking out' Absoulute Love in this way, Spirit says we tend to look outward for Absoulute Love rather than inward. Thus in this shifting into a resonance of Absoulute Love, the shift comes from within. It is seeing ourselves as worthy, valuable, Absoulutely Loveable (Loveable meaning able to be Absoulute Love) within our soul. We are worthy of relationships that genuinely honor the light of who we are. We deserve all of the wonder and the awe of All That Is in the Universal for this Life Experience.

Why do we deserve this? Why does Absoulute Love exist? Because this is the very essence of who we and emanate from. Because we emanate from The Pure Consciousness of the Cosmic Infinite Circle of the Universal Source of All That Is which resides within Absoulute Love and we are The Pure Consciousness of the Cosmic Infinite Circle of the Universal Source of All That Is which resides within Absoulute Love, therefore we are free from BEing anything other than Absoulute Love. This Absoulute Love for our soul is free from resonating within a resonance of The Ego Self of the Soul perceiving itself as separate and in Axiom with that Absoulute Love of our soul is somehow selfish or conceited. It comes from an inner wisdom in knowing that we are all Divine BEings coming from The Pure Consciousness of the Cosmic Infinite Circle of the Universal Source of All That Is which resides within Absoulute Love and is of, for, with, in and BEing Divine Absoulute Love.

How can we BE this? The Infinitely Spiritual Light BEing brings forth the wisdom that it is within the enlightenment that shows us that since we emanate from The Pure Consciousness of the Cosmic Infinite Circle of the Universal Source of All That Is which resides within Absoulute Love and we a5B4re The Pure Consciousness of the Cosmic Infinite Circle of the Universal Source of All That Is which resides within Absoulute Love, then how can we be anything other than already and always, In All Ways, connected to Spirit and receiving their guidance clearly, and how can we be anything other than Absoulute Love? Spirit invites us to BE that of who we are, BE Absoulute Love ~ BE ever presently seeing the beauty and the Absoulute Love within us and let it shine from within us just like a beacon of light from a lighthouse.

Appreciate how wonderfully beautiful you are, as you are an expression of the Divine light. Breathe this in, take a deep breath in and feel this message fill your soul, your spirit. Feel the beautiful light of who you are as it flows from just about a foot above the diadem or crown of the head, all the way through the physical body to the feet, and then all the way to your heart center which is where the soul resides and then encircling your aura. Truly know with a deep sense of inner knowing, inner wisdom and truly feel with the feeling that comes from the very depth of your soul, getting in touch with every part of your soul remembering that of what your soul already does know and is within infinite all inclusive wisdom of but has chosen to forget in coming here to play this game called LIFE ~ that free from any shred of doubt, free from any hesitation, that you are a radiant Beacon of Infinite Light and Absou5B4lute Love, an expression of Divine Absoulute Love, Infinite Light, and Beauty, and that you are All That Is.

Spirit invites us to nurture the spiritual child within us, the spiritual child of our soul. They say that within the Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Absoulute Love that the reason that we may experience the illusion of having trouble embracing our own inner spiritual child with Absoulute Love is that we in The Ego Self of the Soul create the illusion of fear, that we somehow fear the bliss that comes from BEing Absoulute Love. That we fear that we can BE, gift, and receive Absoulute Love and that if we are to take that one step, just that one step into Spiritual Oneness, stepping into and gifting that Absoulute Love to our inner child of our soul, that our light will come beaming through, and that it is the Infinitely Spiritual Soul BEing of Light that we are that we are illusionally fearful of.

Within The Ego Self of the Soul perceiving ourselves as separate our deepest fear is free from being that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are ambrosial beyond measure. It is our light, rather than The Ego Self of the Soul that we perceive that frightens us. We ask ourselves, "Who am I to be brilliant, All wise and all knowing, talented, and magnificent?" Actually, why are we free from BEing so? We are an inner child of the Spiritual Oneness of All That Is. We will be free from serving and gifting th5B4e Universe, all within the Universe, and all within this earth dimension by playing the game of BEing small.

Enlightened we are free from living in the illusion of shrinking our spirit, shrinking our soul, so that other souls will be free from experiencing the e~motion of BEing insecure around us .We are all meant to shine, just as children do. We are born to co~create the awe~inspiring beauty of Absoulute Love, of All That Is that is within us, simply because this is who we are. This is why we chose to incarnate here ~ to experience, to gift, to receive, to remember that of the Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Absoulute Love. Spirit or Divine Consciousness dwells within our soul. It is the essence of LIFE (Living Infinitely From Experience) and we always, in All Ways, have an unbroken lifeline to the Universal Source of which we emanate from, regardless of how small or dim that connection we may perceive it within The Ego Self of the Soul as separate to illusionarily be.

Would we ask a flower to be something other than a flower? A flower is a flower because this is what is, a flower. We are free from being able to ask it or make it be a tree or a mountain. And if we understand this, then we can understand that who we are is an Infinitely Spiritual Light BEing of Infinite Absoulute Love in Spiritual Oneness with all, of all, in all and for all. And who are we to ask or pretend to be something that we are free fro5B4m being? This is that of the hypnocrite that Spirit write of within the Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Choice, that of attempting to be something we are free from being. Infinitely Spiritual Light BEing of Infinite Absoulute Love in Spiritual Oneness with all, of all, in all and for all is free from being just within some of us; it is within every soul. And as we let our own light shine, we consciously gift other souls the gift of choosing to BE the same. As we are liberated from our own illusionary fears blending The Ego Self of the Soul into the Whole of our Soul, into Spiritual Oneness, our presence automatically liberates other souls with whom we touch, move, and inspire by and with our inner light.

It is when we choose the choice to know within our inner wisdom that we are worthy of receiving Absoulute Love that then the channel is opened and we see, feel, and BE Absoulute Love within the infinite forms as it reveals itself to us, as the illusion that we are disconnected and unable to receive has then fallen away, leaving us with the connection to Spirit to All That Is, to the pure joy and bliss of Absoulute Love.

Spirit invites us then to choose that we are good enough and we are worthy to receive their guidance and to receive Absoulute Love simply because we have taken a view of all other possibilities and choose then that we are worthy of spirits guidance and Absoulute Love, because we are All That Is, b5B4ecause we come from All That Is. And if we come from All That Is, then how can we be anything less than worthy of receiving Absoulute Love from Spirit and from all the plethora of forms it comes in. We are worthy of Absoulute Love because we are Absoulute Love.

Absoulute Love is inviting you to experience all that this Absoulute Love has in store for you. Do you accept love's invitation? We hope you do.

Gifting, Receiving, and BEing Absoulute Love calls us to open our heart and LIFE to all the gifts waiting for us that this Absoulute Love has to gift. It gifts us with the treasure of Infinite Soulful Bliss and Spiritual Oneness. Thank you for receiving the Absoulute Love of the Universe so generously in this moment. Welcome to the heart of the soul of Absoulute Love. Life is an experience, free from being about arriving at a destination. So too, is Absoulute Love a journey, free from being about arriving at destination, as we already are Absoulute Love.

The Shift So Deep

I can remember one of the more recent axiomal shifts that occurred for me about four earth dimension years ago now. There is a man by the name of Steve Rother, and he channels Spirit in what he calls The Group. I was listening to one of his channels and on came this song. A woman began singing this song and I felt as though every word that this woman was singing was meant for me. The words to her song touched me so deeply that I began to sob. It 111Cwas the confirmation for me that the inner child in me was healing and that I indeed was free from being alone and that I am loved and I am Absoulute Love. It was the initiation that I would later come to know through Spirit into what we call here on this earth dimension as Ascended Mastery which I completed this circle of in the Spring of 2005.

The money that I would manifest to purchase the CD was free from being available to me at that moment as I had been free from choosing to manifest it. However, I was gifted with the messages from Spirit that I would know when I would be meant to have this CD and to manifest the funds to bring it forth into my LIFE. So I carried the copy of this song's sample on my computer with me for the last several earth dimensional years now and have referred to it often as a reminder of its beautiful words and of the messages that I received within it and from it. Then it began playing in my soul over and over until I heard it within and was free from needing the CD. It was amazing then and yet another confirmation from Spirit when Aaron had said this very thing about a favorite music CD of his. I had borrowed this CD to place it on my computer so I could listen to it too (as I like the CD as well) and so that he could keep the CD in his car with him while I would still have it on my computer to listen to. I had been busy and had forgotten to place it on my computer, thus the CD sat in our room for several days. When I said to Aaron that I had forgotten to do this yet and did he just wish to have the CD back anyhow that I could do it at a later moment, to which he said, "It is ok Hon, whenever you get it back to me is fine, as I hear the song within me, within my soul always so if the CD is elsewhere, I still have it within".

It was just recently when the healing of the inner child through Spiritual Imagination and Inspiration that Spirit writes of within the Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Inspiration, which became the topic of our ongoing spiritual circle that we have weekly in our spiritual center that I remembered Spirits guidance that I would know when I was meant to purchase the CD of this song that I so fell in Absoulute Love with a few earth dimensional years before that had shifted me and the axioms of who I believed I was, that it was indeed the moment to obtain this and share it with the circle. Hence, I did purchase the CD then and the money was instantly there for me to and we utilized them in our spiritual circle. The healing, the beauty, and the shift in axiomal alignment that transpired that evening from just playing this one song was the most amazing transformation I have ever experience aside from my own. This woman's spiritual gift of singing of these words transcends anything here on this earth dimension, and I thank her from the bottom of my soul for the amazing gift she shares with all of us souls in assisting us to R.E.S.T. (Remember, Embrace, and Soulfully Treasure) within the light of who we are. She truly inspires me. Her name is Shaina Noll, and the song that she sings that I am referring to is her rendition of the song entitled "How Can Anyone?"

This song is such as simple song, so few in its words, but its meaning is so inspirational that it touches, it moves, and it inspires all who listen to it. It brings a healing of the inner child and also a resonance of AbSOULute soulful Oneness Love from the very core of the soul within you. I invite you to go to Shaina's website to hear the words to this beautiful song. Any soul who would like to listen to the song sample of this song "How Can Anyone?" or any of her other beautiful music, can listen by visiting her website:

http://www.shainanoll.com/songsamplepages/songsamples.html and scroll down about half way down the page to the Songs for the Inner Child CD song samples on the left side and click on the "How Could Anyone?" title. Shaina's CD Songs for the Inner Child, that "How Can Anyone?" is on, as well as her other CD's can be discovered for purchase as well on this webpage or by visiting her homepage at http://www.shainanoll.com

Spirit says that what keeps the creative energies of axiomal alignment for expanded consciousness, increased awareness, and spiritual oneness alive, is an appreciative openness to receive followed by some soulful response to58F this receiving. As long as there is a continued openness to receiving all of the gifts that the Universe has to offer us, the gifts keep flowing, or we could say that the gifts keep gifting. They say that some moments it takes a powerful event such as the one I just shared here with you, or what we perceive on this earth dimension to be the illusion of something "bad" such as a loss of a home, or a soul whom transitions back home to the Spiritual Universe for us to get to that point where we are touched, moved, and inspired into the shifting of our axioms. Spirit refers to this as a spiritual 2 x 4. Spirit shares that these events when seen through the eyes of the soul, through the eyes of Spiritual Oneness, are just simply gifts that are gifted to us to remember the light of whom we are.

The Infinitely Spiritual Light BEing also refers to the Prayer of St. Francis in which it is said that it is within gifting that we receive. Therefore, Spirit asks us what thoughtenergy, what axioms are we gifting to our soul and to the experience of this LIFE that we are choosing? In what areas of our LIFE (Living Infinitely From Experience) are we choosing in each moment to shift into axiomal alignment with our soul? What step will we take to open the door to Infinite Possibilities? The Infinite Circle begins with us. It is our choice. Do you choose AbSOULUte soulful Love always, in all ways?

Dr. Patti "Diamondlady" Diamond, DD, is a universally celebrated author, speaker, and spiritual mentor within the resonance of Spiritual Oneness. She is currently the author of two books, "Life Long Learning ~ Transforming Learning; Discovering Learning Through Living Life in Unlimitless Possibilities" and "Stepping Into Spiritual Oneness ~ Spiritual Rememberings of the Soul Through Life Experience"; and has appeared on various radio shows and within articles of international publications. She is a Spiritual Medium, Visionary, and has been gifted by Spirit as an Ascended Master. As a clear conduit of the Divine, Patti channels the wisdom of Spirit within Multi~Dimensional ways to inspire each soul to develop their own inner voice of the soul of who they are and brings the gifts of Infinite Healing, AbSOULute Love or Soulful Love, Light, and Peace to all whom she inspires. Dr. Patti "Diamondlady" Diamond, DD is the Director of The Diamondlight International Spiritual Oneness Center and also creator of the OneSoul REALationship Series. For more information about her please visit her website at http://www.diamondlady.net

Sigmund Freud